Do you look for approval from outside? I do, and I hate it. Here’s a case study: my black and white dress.
I have a black and white dress that I love. It’s got big tendricle-like swirls of black on a white background. It’s got a tunic neck and is very loose because I bought it a size too big. You can belt it but I liked it unbelted and loose. I really love it!
The first few times I wore it I got not one compliment. That was sad. But I told myself, “Who cares. Do you like it?” If so, that’s enough.
And then one day I was waiting for a train at the subway and this woman told me she loved my dress. I said thanks and felt good for a minute but then was troubled by feeling good about it. I hate being so reliant upon approval.
So, there’s no moral of the story. Just sharing and trying to be less and less of a people pleaser!